I was sitting in at a suburban Los Angeles Denny’s at 11:55pm on Sunday (that’s last night for me)…and I was exhausted.
I looked at Sara (we were waiting on our takeout) and I told her:
“I’m frustrated. I used to have a lot more energy. I used to be able to just go to sleep and wake up whenever I wanted to. I used to feel completely limitless. I was a machine. Now I get tired around 9:30pm. What’s wrong with me?”
She turned to me and told me…
“You know what…you need to chill the f*** out.”
“What are you talking about?” I said
Then, she proceeded to break it down for me…
“You take on too many things, and don’t know when to say ‘no.'”
I wanted to argue with her, but I couldn’t!
The truth is, I’ve been getting busier and busier – and things are going well.
But there’s a catch…
As I do more and more work, more people are asking me to help them, collaborate with them, give them advice, lend an ear, give a hand, etc….and my default state is always to say “yes.”
I want to help.
I love people.
I love doing good.
But I have to learn to balance helping people with helping myself.
My first priorities are to the Tribe (that’s you ) and my own sanity.
After that, I have to learn how to be conservative with my time and my energy.
And I have to learn how to say “no,” when somebody asks me to do something that won’t work with my big priorities.
I know this seems like a very obvious lesson — but it was a bit of a breakthrough for me.
And for that reason, I’ll be taking a little bit of a breather before beginning “The 7 Day Startup Challenge.” That will begin next Monday — and by that time, I’ll have had the time to recharge and give you everything I got.
Do you have trouble telling people “no”?
I know this has been a big sticking point point for me.
Have you ever had difficulty saying “no” to people, even if what they were asking you to do conflicted with plans you had for yourself, or goals you’d set?
Leave a comment and let me know!
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